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Like most important learning experiences, solitude is full of pain. No state of life can sour more easily. We must use both craft and courage to prevent it from doing so.
1. Don’t feel sorry for yourself:
Nothing separates us from others as
quickly as self – pity. The risk for all of us who live alone is that our
feelings may become the most important thing in our lives. we may brood
responding to them we may glorify “the way it used to be” and give little heed
to the life we are now living.
Although it is not easy, you must
contrive in your solitude to love life and people dearly. Remember, you will
not always feel as you do now. It is impossible to exaggerate the resilience of
the human spirit.
2. Search out the joys of solitude:
I have heard lonely people
say: “Nothing good ever happens to me”. You will not think so if you
keep a journal! Each day in my journal I list
my special joys: “Today a friend called and brought me an unexpected
gift. I took a long walk and came back
feeling rejuvenated”. Looking back over the pages, I can watch
myself growing, and discover how
unpredictable and wonderful life can be.
3. Accept your solitude as a time to grow:
The trouble with many unhappy, lonely
people is that they can see no significance
in their solitude. Our lives are and ought to be, like the seasons and
the weather, a movement in and out of the sun and shadow, rain and aridity.
Solitude is not an interval to be endured. Rather it is related to our lives as a link to a chain. It is – if
we will let it be – a time to grow; a time
to see the past and the future directions of our lives.
4. Accept your solitude:
Do not think of it as either
temporary or permanent, but rather as just here, to be dealt with now. Perhaps
you will live alone the rest of your life
– and you must be ready for that.
But if there is something you want – marriage, a new kind of work, new friends
– change the longing into being worthy of these things when and if they come.
5. Deepen your life:
Turn everything to account, to understanding. This is the special virtue
of solitude. The power of life comes
from within; go there. Pray, meditate. Reach for those luminous places in
yourself where, for most of your life, you have been a stranger.
6. Love, respect and enjoy yourself:
Do not castigate yourself for guilts
that may have contributed to your loneliness. Rest, eat well, sleep. And give
yourself rewards, surprises, joys. Say to yourself: “I have been hurt. I will
allow myself a break comfort”.
Given a choice, few people would choose solitude as a permanent state. As Christopher Fry
says: “No man is free who will not dare to pursue the questions of
his own loneliness. It is through them that he lives”.
All of us are solitaries even when we
live in a house full of people. Everyone is born alone, finds the meaning of
his life alone, goes to his death alone.
The important thing is to live with ourselves with courage, humility and