Keep Cool

Stay calm

Life is a  warfare. We all are bound to find it out from personal experience. In waging this daily war, we often lose our temper, peace  and harmony both in the family and  at work. Anger makes us lose our face, adds a degree of grumpiness to our temperament and leaves our feelings drained.

All of us have heard of Sister Kenny, the famous Australian nurse who was indeed a godsend to so many – polio stricken children. As a young girl she often used to leave her mother worried over her exceptional hot temper. Once when she got incensed over some triviality, her mother took her aside and gave her some advice in exactly six words. And those words never left her mind.


Her whole career was marked by stormy controversy. But in all her battles with doubters, who ridiculed her methods and questioned her integrity, Sister Kenny remembered her mother’s wise counsel: Anyone who angers you, conquers you.

Mahatma Gandhi had these words on the wall of his room in Sevagram: When you are in the right you can afford to keep your temper, and when you are in the wrong you cannot afford to lose it.

“Even when we believe we have a right to get mad”, writes Dr. Norman Vincent Peale, “We know inside we are a lesser person every time we lose our temper”.

And here are some practical hints on how not to get  at somebody:

1.  Remember that anger is a hot emotion. Cool it before it breaks loose. As the emotion rises, send cooling thoughts through your mind. Focus on cool  places you like to visit.

2.  Uncontrolled anger requires a loud or intense voice. Keep your volume low, Nobody can get very mad in a whisper.

3.  Don’t let your body assume a fighting stance. Keep your hands from clutching. Anger is hard to express if you slump in a chair, harder yet if you lie down.

4.  If you feel rage coming on and think that counting to ten is silly, just repeat the words: With God’s help, I’ll skip it.

Anger is usually the accumulated vehemence resulting from a lot of minor irritations. To get at the root of anger, make a list of all the little things that irritate you, no matter how inconsequential or silly they may seem. Through applied faith and prayer, gain a victory over each of these irritations.

If you would not like to find yourself on a psychiatrist’s couch, consider this Prayer for a person in a Hurry, which is  said to be very popular  among Glasgow businessmen:

‘Slow me down, Lord!

‘Ease the pounding of my heart by the quieting of my mind. Steady my hurried pace with a vision of eternal reach of time.

‘Give me, amidst the confusion of my day, the calmness of the Everlasting Hills. Break the tensions of my nerves and muscles with the soothing music of the singing streams that live in my memory. Help me to know the magical, restoring power of sleep.

‘Teach me the art of taking one minute vacations, or slowing down or look at a flower: to chat with a friend; to pat a dog; to read a few lines from a good book. Remind me, each day, of the fable of the hare and the tortoise; that I may learn that the race is not always to the swift; that there is more to life then increasing its speed.

‘Let me look upward to the branches of the towering oak and recall that it grew great and strong by growing slowly and well.

‘Slow me down, Lord! Inspire me to stand my roots deep into the soil of life’s enduring values that I ,too , may grow towards the stars of my greater destiny’.


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