The enemies of happiness are the two Ugly Sisters named Anxiety and Care. They thrive in situation concerning health, money and human relationships. We can do much to reduce their evil spell by giving special thought and attention to these three matters. Let us examine them in turn.
Good health creates no problem. It is
poor health, either our own or that of others which causes difficulties,
distress, discomfort and a host of other woes.
Unless we are parents, teachers, on
in the medical profession, we can do little to improve the health of others. But we can do much to safe guard
our own health and thus avoid many unhappy repercussions that spring from
Firstly, we must observe the
elementary principles by seeing that we
have sufficient exercise, fresh air, sleep, and a sensible balanced diet.
Secondly we must maintain a positive
and hopeful attitude towards our own bodies
and health. This applies also to our work, other people and life itself.
Money is the source of much care,
whether we have too little or too much. The best state seems to be to
have sufficient for our needs plus a little more. It is not difficult to bring
If we find what we have insufficient
money, two courses are open to us. We must try
and increase our income, or we must try and decrease our expenditure.
Sometimes a hobby can be a source of supplementary income. Or you may be able
to develop some skill or become
a specialist in some sphere where you can teach others.
Reduction of expenditure too, calls
imagination and ingenuity. It also demands a philosophy of life which will
enable us to enjoy it while living simply. The words of an old song are very
true: “The best things in life are
If we can learn to live simply, we
have gone a long way towards solving our financial worries and multiplying our
quota of happiness.
3. Human Relationship:
Seeing that most of us are
rubbing shoulders with others for the
major part of our working hours, it is
obvious that the sooner we learn to live harmoniously with others, the sooner
we are going to replace anxiety and distress with peace and happiness.
The secret of living happily with others lies in putting ourselves
imaginatively in their position. This gives birth to tact in us and leads us to
behave towards them in ways which are pleasant and acceptable to them.
We must keep in mind that most
people are extremely sensitive and
proud. In consequence they are easily
hurt. Human emotions are explosive material and people have to be handled with
Courtesy and respect are essential.
We must make it evident that we respect
others as persons, and that we respect their opinions, feelings, comfort and
privacy. This applies whether we are dealing with strangers, neighbours,
friends, relatives, children, employers or employees. In every human
relationship there is potential danger of explosions, leading to distress,
anger, heart break, hatred, bitterness
It helps us to get on
with others if we do not expect perfection from
them. How many people expect others to
be perfectly honest, perfectly truthful, perfectly tidy, perfectly punctual in addition to being industrious, intelligent, and courteous. They
are but human. We must remember our own failings.
Another way to develop harmonious relationship
is to develop a liking for others in spite of their annoying ways. This is
easier if we remember their attractive qualities, their good points and their
Above all, we must first come to
terms with ourselves and learn self – esteem. It is difficult to like others
until we have learned to like ourselves.
A useful book to be read carefully is
Dale Carnegie’s “How to Win Friends and Influence People”. In simple, everyday language this author sets forth principles of behaviour culled from centuries of human
experiences. It is impossible to imagine anyone reading this book seriously and
not making rapid strides in the business of living happily with his fellow